Sure, it’s easy to keep the romance alive in a relationship while there are just the two of you alone and everything’s new and exciting. But what about a year or two down the road? Throw in all the bills, the kids, the rising debt on the cars and the house… Reality can sometimes start to replace the romance at this point. You don’t know when it starts happening. Certainly, the warm, fuzzy feeling was still there when you walked down the aisle. It hadn’t disappeared by your first anniversary and was even in strong evidence when the two of you found yourselves viewing the ultrasound of your first baby on the way.

So when exactly did all of that fade into the background to be replaced by a thousand other worries and demands on your time? Was it shortly after you bought the new house? Or maybe the day after you came home from the hospital with a new infant? There’s no saying really. It differs from person to person. For every couple who can put their finger on the exact moment they realized they had passed from “new couple” to “old couple”, there are just as many out there who have no idea when the transformation took place.

But its not the time when it happened that really matters, not unless figuring out the time can help you understand why it happened, because that’s the part that’s important. If you can understand the why, if you can see exactly what led up to the problem, then there should be no reason why it can’t be fixed. If romance can be forgotten in the crazy rush of life, surely it can be re-remembered somewhere along the way, right? If it can be laid down so quickly, we think, it seems only natural that it can be picked up again just as easily.

Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case. Often finding the old romance again is a bit harder than it was when you captured it the first time around. Let’s face it, you’re older and tireder and you lack a lot of the same incentives you had back then. What’s more, you’ve settled into a comfortable routine now and there’s little that’s harder than breaking what has become a long-time habit. But if you have thought about this enough to realize you want to make a change and if your loved one is equally committed to that change, it’s still very doable. So don’t give up on your romance. Shake things up a little and find out how it all lands. After all, isn’t the goal worth it?

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